I work at a yoga studio and so I spend most of my time in yoga clothes- and let’s be real for a second- jeans suck and yoga pants are awesome. Even if I didn’t do yoga I’d probably spent most of my time in yoga pants. Here’s my issue, boys, I don’t wear yoga pants for you, I wear them because my lazy ass doesn’t feel like shimmying into skinny jeans at 8 am. Because running around town all day, like I do, is much more comfortable in leggings.
I hate being catcalled- it makes me feel unsafe. Some people may think it’s a compliment. And I get that, I know that most men think they are giving me a ego boost but they’re not. Maybe if you were to tell me I looked beautiful or elegant… that would be one thing. But, “damn ma” and “sexy”…those words make me feel cheap.
My rant comes from an incident this morning; I went to grab a cup of coffee after yoga and while walking there I passed a corner convenience store where there were two men leaning against the door. As I passed them they smiled and nodded “Good morning”, I responded appropriately with a smile and “good morning” back and headed into the cafe. When I left the two men were still there- now, in my perfect world I would like to keep my head down and walk right back to the yoga studio without having to socially engage everyone I see, but apparently that’s not polite- so as I walked past them again we make eye contact, “beautiful day” one says, I respond “Yes, gorgeous”… and, as though they knew I was waiting for it “just like your body, ma. Damn, gorgeous.” He says the word “Damn” like he is making love to it, and it sends shivers down my back.
The look on my face must have given away my disgust because guy 2 goes “come on, ma. It’s a compliment.”
Number fucking 1. Stop calling me “Ma”- I do not like it. It is creepy and creates an air on anonymity. In a proper and cordial society we refer to women we do not know as “miss or Ma’am”. Not “Ma”, or “Baby”, or “Sweets”, or “Sexy”or “Miss Thang”
Number 2. Really?…. REALLY? “Just like your body”….my body?!?! The next time someone comments on my body I’m just going to turn around and say “Yeah, and what about my face, or have your eyes not made it there yet?”
Number 3. If the statement had been something more like, “You look beautiful, Miss.” or “You’re just as pretty as this day.” Maybe things may have gone differently, may I would have smiled and said thank you instead of dropping my eyes and quickening my pace. Maybe I would have left the conversation feeling pretty and not cheap. Maybe I would have stayed in my yoga pants instead of putting on sweatpants before venturing out again.